Happy holidays to many of you, and happy New Year!
We’re headed into a fresh year, and this is traditionally a time when we recommit, re-energize around goals and desires, bolster our will and enthusiasm, and try to shift from inaction to action about what we care about most in our lives. Coaching is a wonderful support for that, it can provide accountability and structure to help you jump your hurdle and/or change your habits.
While coaching can help you shift into action, it is sometimes in a different way than you might imagine. Something my work has brought forward this week is the way that we equate stuck with frozen, or inaction, but inside it often functions more like an internal tug of war - two competing drives each with a strong opposing desire. For example a part of you that wants more aliveness might be craving adventure, but there might be an equally strong internal drive for safety or comfort that is resisting making travel plans. The opposition can be as simple as I want that cookie/I don’t want that cookie to as complicated as I want to quit my job/I don’t want to quit my job or I want to be a parent/I don’t want to be a parent. These competing internal desires wear us down, it is actually the opposite of frozen, it’s hard exhausting work. We are stuck because we spend our time trying to convince ourselves to either pursue our dream or to give up our dream, and that battle drains our energy.
The work of coaching can support action as you might expect - by creating lists of steps, by having accountability, and by working through obstacles. This is a way people commonly think of coaching. But it can also support action by making space for what I think of as internal team building. It can allow you to give a voice to each competing internal drive, each unique perspective, and teach these voices to work in collaboration rather than competition. It can build trust between these varied desires and help them cultivate a shared vision, aligning around their common ground, which is your well being.
Internal team building helps you understand the roles different parts of you play, so you can decide who’s perspective will support your goals, rather than believing that one particular internal perspective is ‘the truth.’ It allows for unlikely solutions to age old problems because the varied aspects of you have shared goals, understand and support each other’s roles, collaborate on solving problems in ways every part of you can get behind, and learn to listen to, care for, and respect each other. Just like effective professional team building improves organizational performance and boosts moral, internal team building lifts your enthusiasm and streamlines how you area able to function in relationship to your goals and dreams.
Imagine how it would feel to have all the voices inside you give up the tug of war, and start pulling on the same side of the rope. No resistance and tons of force would equal quick work. Coaching can offer this kind of realignment, this kind of internal shift that clears the way for you take action on whatever is calling out to you to be done.
If that sounds interesting, I encourage you to set up a free initial consultation with me. Now is the perfect moment to get on the side of your own progress.
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